Daddy Who? Mommy Who?

Hello everyone! As you can see by now my blog is coming together perfectly and I'm starting to get the hang of this. =]

So today I was going to talk about procrastination but as I am watching Oprah right now with my roommate, it is bringing tears to my eyes. There was a family of three that included a father, a 15-year old daughter and a 10-year old son. When the daughter and the son were on Oprah the first time, the girl was 11 and the boy was 7. Their mother and father had gotten a divorce and the mother had left. During their first interview, the little 7-year old boy said that one of the ways he tried to convince his mother to stay and not leave was to wait outside in the rain on his knees with the "sad puppy dog face" but it didn't work. The daughter at 11 said that every time she would try and see her mother, she would wear make up to make her look prettier so that her mother would like her.

This was one of the most heart-breaking things I've ever heard in my life. As the tears rolled down our cheeks, my roommate and I asked, who could ever do such a thing?! To break a child's heart with no regrets. They received no calls, no messages, no contact what-so-ever. It is ridiculous how a parent can leave a child without having contact with them at all. A parent must take responsibility for their child even if it is with a significant other they hate. It is even worse when the mother is the one that leaves rather than the father. Not only is society accustom to males that dismiss their duties as fathers, but a mother is the one that is the caregiver in the family. A mother is the nurturer of the family. For goodness sake, a mother has carried around the child for 9-months inside of them and gave birth to them. Isn't the mother supposed to feel that homeliness as soon as they give birth that says, "This is my child. I gave birth to them. I love them." For a mother not to have any emotional connection to their children is unheard of.

The raw footage of the pain and hurt that the children endure is something that no child should ever have to experience. There is no reason why either a mother or a father should not be in their child's life. A child is better off having both parents in their lives than just one. The parent does not need to force themselves to get along with the other parent, but to get to know the child and be there for them.

As I think back to the children that have to endure the thought of there parents walking out on them, I pray that they stay strong and that they are blessed.

-Yanika